I have received a call from a representative of the Twenty Twenty Television Corporation, United Kingdom. The issue is quiet cold now and the favor that was given to me to be posted is almost a week old, but because of all the stuff that came up, programs, events, projects, I had to postpone posting up an article regarding this issue without even able to stick to the plan which I have organized to get this discussion going, but let’s head into the discussion right away before you escape to close this window or proceed to another article.
Parents are parents…
It’s an interesting topic to discuss on how much impact parenting does to the development of a Teenager, whether the parent contributed to the child in a good or bad way, yet that is not the only factor to consider in the building up of the character of ones kid. The people (peer) around one does also deal a very great impact, especially at times when we, Teenagers are off limits from the supervision of our parents; just the way a teenager usually wants it to be.
But, is it really good that parents often leave us to do our stuff without their supervision? Or should we have their guidance all the way, or, don’t you think that lenient parents start becoming a nuisance and eventually fall under the strict parents category? What is best now, anyway?
Parents that tend to spoil their kids are not strict
If we would ignore the other factors in the development of our characters and our attitudes then indeed, the parents are the foundation of everything, the first school that we unconsciously attend at home, the ones who taught us how to pray, how to eat well and taught us some basic rules regarding our manner in public and everything else. There might be some kids that get along well and end up with a nice attitude even if their parents are not that strict with them, while the majority of the these end up being spoiled and getting used to the goodness of their parents. And I have to admit that I am one of the spoiled kids out there; someone who is having more than he actually needs and is still craving for more.
Are your parents strict?
While at the other hand, strict parenting may end up having your child (us) end up taking revenge on our children (c’mon, don’t deny that). Whilst the majority grow up the way they should be, good in attitude, character and many other aspects. It’s hard to deter which is good as we mostly experience either one thing or the other but scarcely see our parents acting up as both fairly strict and strict in general.
I have got a few questions to leave to my readers here which I hope you would participate in. Are your parents strict? Are you in the Middle Class Social Status who could accommodate one or two more family members for a week or two? Would you like to be part of a Documentary Series of BBC (British Broadcasting Corporation)? Then you might just be the family that our friends from the Twenty Twenty Television are looking for. We hope to hear from you and that you participate in our discussion here!
My parents are not that strict and I cannot participate anyway since I have only a father left and we’re currently out of the coutnry
If I know, if you’d know that it’s a handsome and cute guy you would return to the Philippines immediately. Haha.
May tama ka!
Sayang, anyways, you’re not in the mid class but above average, rich girl! ahaha
Wow, Off Topic muna, this is your third post in a row for this evening. Back on blogging na huh?
My parents are not strict either. I dunno, but I think we would fit the middle class requirement, just that I am a bit spoiled, or a bit too much?
I’m still too lazy to fix my categories and some template edits that could bring me back into the blogging mood.
I know your parents ain’t strict HAHA
Our family of Princess is very NOT strict dude, but I’d be interested in taking care of a girl? hehe joke lang.
mga magulang nga naman stricto para sa kapakanan ng children naman eh..
ei.. naku san po ba pwede madownload ang Revolution Pro Media theme and other REV themes?
may bayad po ba ang themes na to? pls reply..
My parents are strict and I can live with it. I’m used to it and I believe that lenient parents bring out the best in you.
I feel bad for people who has cancer. 🙁 what more kids? 🙁 makes me so sad. Glad this organization in the Philippines exist so they can help kids with cancer. do you want to help? http://projectbravekids.org/home.php
my parents are strict on the right way.we always comproise and they always remind me that they do trust me.
me boyfreind's parents is way too strict. i mean. he is a boy, and god, he is already 20 years old and still not allowed to do lots of stuffs especially having a girlfriend. he'll be allowed only, if, he already graduated med school.. well that is still couple of years from now, and yeah btw, im a med student as well.isnt it enough?
for your information, Filipino Parents were ranked 2nd most strict in Asia. I remember my classmate who told me that when he gets 89 in a card, he'll get grounded immediately by his parents (and he's not even top student in my batch). as for me, having at least one failing grade in a card is worth grounding me for the summer vacation 😛
and yes, I live in the Philippines 🙂
My parents don't appear to be strict but when I tend to be loose on some nights, they become suddenly strict! Like for example… If I tell them that I will be dating the Boyfriend, they'd be fine with it. But when the clock strikes 9 in the evening and I'm not home yet because as I've said I'm dating the Boyfriend they would start to panic and transform into the personas of strict parents. Gets mo? The strictness continues until the end of the night–by the time I get home but it eventually disappears the next morning.
My parents are okay when it comes to stuff like relationships but they are very persistent in instilling stuff that I should remember ie not getting pregnant early so that I won't be ruining my academic life, that I should have nice grades all the time so that I'd have an easy jumpstart to a good future, etc. And yes, I get painfully reprimanded for having "low" aka MEDIOCRE grades! Coming from a middle-class family here. 😛
But anyway Kevin, I don't think the low-grades factor is exclusive to the Filipino family alone. I think every parent in this world would be so disappointed if they'd see ugly grades in their kid's progress report. Of course every parent has a mindset that a good academic record is the way to a better future (EHEM EHEM TO THE PINOY TEENS TEAM HAHA JOKE) so they get disappointed if they see their kids not delivering to this expectation. Another thing is, with all the financial difficulties our parents are facing right now–nakakabadtrip talaga ang makakakita ng ugly grades especially if you're sending your kid to a costly top-tiered school (*cough cough again LOL!) But that is just me! 😛 Maybe you can talk about the strictness of Filipino families when it comes to boyfriend-girlfriend stuff… Pre-marital sex or what!
Guess what? My parents are even strict than all of the parents I ever heard in my life.
I'm April and I'm 21 years old and still my Father punishes me by his metal belt and spank me. He yelled at me whenever he feels mad at me, He gives us curfew together with my sister and my sister is 24. I'm always not allowed to get out of my house. I have a chaperon when I was in College (like a baby sitter). I'm never had a boyfriend in my life, because my parents are so strict. I'm not allowed to wear dark makeup. I'm not allowed to wear daring clothes. I never interact with boys in my life. I think they are going to be strict to me until I reach my 30's age because I have observed that some of my cousins living abroad are guided by their parents and living with them. And my Father's sister's and brothers are neighbors since they have their own family together with my grandparents. My Father and his siblings are still getting some advices on how to treat us properly with their 88 years old mother. I mean come on? I'm living in a hell life. I'm not mad that they are doing this to me because of so many reasons to protect me from danger but this is too much really. My parents are so paranoid about dangers in life like being raped, being holdap, being kidnapped, and other accidents happening to other people now a days. I know they love me so much and they don't want me to fall into danger, but i'm not gonna stay with them forever. I'm growing up, I need space, I want to have freedom and I want to have a normal life like others have. I always know what's right and wrong, I don't go to a club late at night, I don't smoke, I don't even drink alcohol. I don't know why they could not trust me. I don't follow my friends if they are doing a bad example, I'm still the same person who always follows the right thing.
Because my father looks like he's going to kill me if he tried to punish me, I tried to shout and I know it's wrong but I want to limit his rules of treating me like a child. I always compare American culture to Asian culture, teenagers in USA have different treatment of parents to their children unlike here in the Philippines. Since I live here in the Philippines, I think I'm going to suffer in pain because of how my parents treat me. I know this is kind a violence to some other countries but it's normal here in our country. How I wish this will be over, I just think it's so unfair for us to be in this kind of situation because it also depends on our culture and the culture in America. That's why I'm so jealous to Taylor Momsen she can do whatever she wants to do at a young age.
So I decided to look up this topic because an hour ago, my dad got mad at my sister for waking up late for the ACT's (her alarm did not go off). This past week has been filled with my parents yelling at my sister and I. Tuesday I got in trouble for coming home at 9:30 because I has dance practice for Simbang Gabi. I also got a stare down passing my mom because it took me a bit longer to get ready for school (we had to leave early). Wednesday I got lectured (mostly by my mom) because they couldn't find the school that I was practicing for Simbang Gabi since I couldn't get a ride from my friend.
My parents are strict, yes they let me hang out with friends, but with a limit. I used to get spanked by the slipper or the hand when I was little. I'm still a teen, and have that urge of just a bit more freedom. I do not dare get a boyfriend until later on because it will disappoint my parents. Every time I would get lectured, I would feel that I kept making the same mistakes and my confidence level would plumage. I know that they are doing this because they love me and want to instill good values in me, but I guess I just want 1 month where my parents would not get mad at me for little things, getting a B on my grade, or anything else.