Teen Support: Befriending a friend

A problem has been bugging Mr Kevin Paquet for a couple of days already, or should I say weeks? It started all with a little prank, that turned out to be the cause of a mind-bugging, emotional torment on his side.

Mr Almighty, has caused all this, or should I say he?

Exactly three Saturdays ago (including yesterday’s), Kevin attended a practice with his group mates for their English Musical Excerpt. But instead of practicing for the upcoming year level competition this Wednesday, he messed up, literally.

“Whilst the other boys were busy with ’something’ upstairs”, he says, “I had something else in mind, to shot a glass or two”. With all his money on the line and lending a few bucks from his school friend Maribel, Kevin decided to buy a Gilbeys Gin, which all of his fellas could enjoy from. His other classmate, Imee prepared the drink. Mixing it up with Grape Juice and has tasted pretty odd, according to him and his friends.

Now, after he took more than 5 cups of the said liquid, he wasn’t really “he”. As he appeared to be drunk and wasn’t the only one in that status, his other friend felt the same way too. The whole group went to a nearby Internet Cafe, and it was there where the whole mess started.

Kevin had this special friend of his, going by the name Leslie. The girl that is causing all the headache for him right now. But everything goes totally to his account. On that day, Leslie was present and accompanied him as he opens the door to Mr Almighty, the guy who is said to be able to answer anything and everything. He answered a few questions to keep the mood cool, yet eventually went too far with some of his questions until it reached the point that Leslie felt offended. And doesn’t wants to talk to him until this very minute we are writing down this post.

The problem now is, that he doesn’t know what he should do, how he should approach that girl. He did not felt this way for a long time. She used to be a good friend of him, but now it turns out that he is starting to feel something for her, which is quite unexplainable. By any wrong move that he could take from now on, it may cost their friendship, and maybe more.

He needs your help, your advice on what he should do with that girl to let her loose the anger and befriend him once again.

Teen Support Episode 1: Studying Won’t Help Anything

I’m very proud to inform you that we’ve got our first email sender for the Teen Support. And as request, I shall not publicize any personal information about the writer enclosed in the email she sent. Be reminded that the published article may contain edits from the original one, as we are trying to translate everything into English.

Dear Pinoy Teens,

Hello, I’m Nikka Domingo from the Philippines. One of the frequent readers of your website. I’ve made use of the couple of lessons that you’ve posted here from time to time, and I feel happy about the way you try to help us fellow teenagers to excel in class. As for I have a little advantage over the other readers, being a 4th year student just like you.

Speaking of excelling in class, it appears to make no sense at all, as if it is useless. I don’t know what is wrong! We’ve had our first monthly examination good a week ago, and I almost failed in all subjects that I’ve studied well. Maybe telling you more about the way I study could help.

I study by having music turned on, and talking to my friends via sms with my mobile phone, either to discuss any random gossips or to oftentimes inquire about something that I find difficult to understand on what I was studying about. It does help for me, I think. Yet, the result of the examination totally upset me and make me feel like a looser, I’ve lost the confidence to ever touch a book again and study because it just does not make any sense at all.

I hope that you could recommend me some tips and hopefully leave me a couple of advices that I could follow in order for me to pass this very 4th year in secondary education. Please do help me out in spite the very few details that are contained in this email. Thanks once again!

From Princess:

Dear Nikka (we changed the name to just a random name),

First of all, we, especially I really do appreciate that you’ve left us an email regarding your problem. Now, let’s get on with the business. Hmm. I know how you feel, I’ve felt that frustration before, as if all that I’ve studied appeared useless at the end, and a lot of hours of lurking around the pages of your notebook or your notes appear seemingly nonsense. But, it does happen often, you, nor I are excluded from that. Nor are other people excluded.

Maybe your mind just blacked out for a while, for that very moment, but like you’ve said, failing in almost all examinations? Must be something fishy with that. Ask these question to yourself and check what’s wrong could possibly be the cause for your land slide failure.

• What did you study? All the lessons or just a portion of them?
  • It is very important to (most of the time) take up every single line of your notes that you either get from your notebook or from your book. These are the fundamentals of every examination created by the teacher.
• When did you study them?
  • The time frame between your pre-study for the examination and the examination itself is very important. We all good know that stress is really not a good friend; and stress comes along your way if ever you are studying on the last minute. You won’t be able to absorb anything from your lessons, else if you do; it’ll only be for a short span of time and you might come to forget all that once the examination starts.
• How did you study, where and with whom?
  • Besides the time frame for your studies, you also need to take care of your surroundings during your study session. It’s very important that there’s nothing that may destruct you while you are studying. It’s advisable that you refrain from texting or talking to your friends about anything not related to what you are studying. It’s also recommended that you turn of any device that’s producing annoying sounds that could disturb you, like the Radio for example. Yet, there are really a few people who come to perform better when music is played. If in case you are one of those people, feel free to apply your favorite music along with your study, but just make sure that you’ll be a passive listener at that very moment.

If any of our readers can add some advices, please do so by just leaving a comment below

Long Distant Love

Dear Pinoy Teens,

Hi, I’m a 17 year old guy, residing inside the Philippine Archipelago; I’ve been living here in the Philippines since birth, and I am currently residing in the City of Davao. Simply call me, Gui. First of all, I’d like to thank everyone behind this project who are willing to help Teenagers with problems, just like me; in the best way they could. I’ve been Attending the Ateneo de Davao University for a couple of years already, met a lot of friends, enemies and a lover, whom we’ll gonna call, Nelie. She has been my girlfriend for about a year, until just a couple of weeks ago, in which her parents have decided to stay in a foreign country for the next years to come, as her father is a Australian Citizen.

I know she loves me, and I definitely love her too. But the problem is, I just cannot hold on any longer on how she’s approaching me, her character has changed, her whole personality has changed, I cannot recognize her anymore.

In the first few weeks that passed, we still texted and call each other frequently and chatted most of the time online. But that didn’t last long, as from time to time, she became busy and even more busier and I just don’t know what to do. It’s like, she has found someone new already, she isn’t answering my calls anymore at night, nor is she saying sorry the other day, it’s just like she hasn’t noticed my call every night for which I suspect she is hanging out with someone else.

This appears to be a silly little problem, but for me it is definitely a big one, and a hard one to take. I need some advices to help me out with this problem, I need some encouraging suggestions and words that will help me either move on or hold on, just like said.

Wishing for your loving help and support,
Gui, Davao City.

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